"Such is life"
It's funny you quote from the book of Job, considering that his so-called friends gave him no comfort at all.
Like your post, which you managed to turn the subject back to your own loss. Well done!
Captain Schmideo2
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Elderly and sick: Out of sight, out of mind
by Captain Schmideo2 insomeone else posted something a similar experience, this is one i had regarding my mom.my mom died last year.
she had been in failing health for years, but the last 2 year were pretty rough for her, with lots of visits to the hospital.
the last 4 months, it was the hospital, a skilled nursing facility/rehab unit, and finally, a nursing home.
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Elderly and sick: Out of sight, out of mind
by Captain Schmideo2 insomeone else posted something a similar experience, this is one i had regarding my mom.my mom died last year.
she had been in failing health for years, but the last 2 year were pretty rough for her, with lots of visits to the hospital.
the last 4 months, it was the hospital, a skilled nursing facility/rehab unit, and finally, a nursing home.
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"The reception seems to be the draw because ALL witnesses crave a party."
There WAS a reception, but it was family members and invitees (and that was exactly 1) only.
If the rest of that lot thought they were going to get free sandwiches and punch from me, they were sadly mistaken.
The one person that reached out to me for spiritual solace and comfort was the Resident Minister of the hospital.
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Elderly and sick: Out of sight, out of mind
by Captain Schmideo2 insomeone else posted something a similar experience, this is one i had regarding my mom.my mom died last year.
she had been in failing health for years, but the last 2 year were pretty rough for her, with lots of visits to the hospital.
the last 4 months, it was the hospital, a skilled nursing facility/rehab unit, and finally, a nursing home.
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Someone else posted something a similar experience, this is one I had regarding my mom.
My mom died last year. She had been in failing health for years, but the last 2 year were pretty rough for her, with lots of visits to the hospital. The last 4 months, it was the hospital, a skilled nursing facility/rehab unit, and finally, a nursing home. She was home-bound for years, with her only trips out being doctor visits. I was the one who had to drive her to those appointments. It took all her energy to do these short trips, and she could not go anywhere without oxygen, so going to the hall would have been a production that she would not be able to physically do. Her interaction with the hall, such as it was, was on Zoom.
She was so dediicated to that rotten religion, but they let her down in the end. When she was in the hospital in her final weeks, and I made it known through the grapevine of people I keep in touch with at her hall that she was sick, no one came to visit her, except for a couple of Witnesses who did not know her personally, but were there as part of their "hospital rounds".
When she was sick at home, she never got calls from her so-called friends, checking on her welfare. She got one of those generic "letters of encouragement" from one of her contemporaries around memorial time a couple of years back, and she was so desperate for contact, she actually believed that they were really concerned and wanting to re-establish a friendship, but it was pretty apparent to me by the reactions she got when she called this "friend" that there wasn't going to be a lot of hanging out together.
So, she died. The remembrance service was at the funeral home that she had prepaid years in advance, so I didn't have to go through the awkwardness of trying to get a Kingdom Hall service (in fact, if it had been up to just me, I wouldn't have bothered with having a JW funeral at all. But, I had to keep my JW sister happy, so...) At ther funeral, NOW all of her contemporaries show up. "Why, I didn't even *know* she was sick!", etc. etc. Yeah, you didn't know, because when was the last effing time you reached out to her? I wanted to kick some people in kneecaps, I was so disgusted with them. They won't show up when you are alive, but they show up to put on the big pretense of concern at the funeral service.
Anyway, I am sure my story is not unique. Once a member of the hall stops showing up due to serious illness, unless they are part of some huge clan (we are not a huge clan in my family), then they are going to be forgotten.
After that rotten show, we had a graveside service for just family members only. I felt much more satisfied with that experience, because we could talk about her life, and our personal remembrances, and it felt more loving and "Christian" with her "worldly" family that it did with that other bunch.
Anyway, thanks for reading.
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Beards!!!!! Just knock me over with a feather....
by Captain Schmideo2 inthey finally dropped that shoe!https://www.jw.org/en/news/region/global/2023-governing-body-update-8/?fbclid=iwar3tijct69fal1hlf_ukqsafejckrhuqwwvpyk_6ieulic82suqdnlyhsvm.
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Impact of Death of Favorite Character
by peacefulpete ini'll assume we have all felt a jolt of loss when a favorite tv, movie or book character dies.
when i watched the death of the incredible hulk tv movie after years of reading the comics and watch the tv show i was impacted.
funny even today it just feels wrong.
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Oh, and Charlie from "Lost". That one REALLY hurt.
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Impact of Death of Favorite Character
by peacefulpete ini'll assume we have all felt a jolt of loss when a favorite tv, movie or book character dies.
when i watched the death of the incredible hulk tv movie after years of reading the comics and watch the tv show i was impacted.
funny even today it just feels wrong.
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The Iron Giant.
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1975 selling of houses
by Paul Bonanno inas 1975 was approaching, many witnesses sold their property.
do you know about specific cases that are willing to share their experience of doing so?.
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Captain Schmideo2
My uncle. His reasoning was "If it wasn't going to happen, then why would they keep emphasizing it in the talks?"
Um, yeah, sure.
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Follow Up to follow up
by Captain Schmideo2 inhttps://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5134166409084928/follow-previous-post-re-my-niece.
so, with head firmly up his backside, my bil has decided to take his chances with a jury.he could have taken a plea for 18 months anger management classes, but no, he thinks he did nothing wrong, and so now his daughter gets to appear before a jury.. imagine a petite, "clean-cut", soft spoken young lady in front of a jury, as she answers questions about being beaten by her father for daring to have a boyfriend.
i can't see any scenario where this goes to the benefit of her father.
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And the case has been pushed on the docket out to January, sometime. Sigh.
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Follow Up to follow up
by Captain Schmideo2 inhttps://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5134166409084928/follow-previous-post-re-my-niece.
so, with head firmly up his backside, my bil has decided to take his chances with a jury.he could have taken a plea for 18 months anger management classes, but no, he thinks he did nothing wrong, and so now his daughter gets to appear before a jury.. imagine a petite, "clean-cut", soft spoken young lady in front of a jury, as she answers questions about being beaten by her father for daring to have a boyfriend.
i can't see any scenario where this goes to the benefit of her father.
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https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5134166409084928/follow-previous-post-re-my-niece
So, with head firmly up his backside, my BIL has decided to take his chances with a jury.
He could have taken a plea for 18 months Anger Management classes, but no, he thinks he did nothing wrong, and so now his daughter gets to appear before a jury.Imagine a petite, "clean-cut", soft spoken young lady in front of a jury, as she answers questions about being beaten by her father for daring to have a boyfriend. I can't see any scenario where this goes to the benefit of her father.
It's either incredibly bad advice from his attorney, or his total refusal to acknowledge what he has done. Either way, what an incredible waste of time. He's a local businessman, it's a small town. Once this gets public, it's going to hurt him in a lot of ways. So dumb! -
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Follow to previous post,re:My niece
by Captain Schmideo2 ina few weeks back, i posted this:https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/6246845349625856/never-thought-would-see-this-my-family-circle.
so, in latest developments:there was a court hearing, in which a continuance was granted for two weeks, as my bil has pleaded not guilty.
which is, in my opinion, very bad legal advice from his lawyer.
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A few weeks back, I posted this:
https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/6246845349625856/never-thought-would-see-this-my-family-circleSo, in latest developments:
There was a court hearing, in which a continuance was granted for two weeks, as my BIL has pleaded Not Guilty. Which is, in my opinion, very bad legal advice from his lawyer. With the recorded testimony my niece has given, plus the records of the photo evidence of her injuries, I don't think whatever he will have to present will be seen as very believable. I get the vibe that his testimony will ultimately be that whatever happened, it was because her "bad behavior" provoked it.
(The bad behavior in question was getting involved with a "worldly boy" as her boyfriend")
She had be very reticent with me regarding the events of that night, but she provided me a detail that just floored me and made me sick to my stomach. That attack was so violent on her, that my sister had get a belt and start whipping on her husband's back to make him stop hurting his daughter, who he had on the floor. Jee-zus!
That little detail is going to absolutely require confirmation or denial from my sister, since she had a very active part in those events.
My niece believes that her mom is being coached or coerced into playing along with this charade, but that that the cracks in her resolve may be forming. Mother and daughter are now on speaking terms again, after weeks of silence, and I think (I hope) that my sister is seeing the wrongness of what was done to her. I hope.
Meanwhile, my niece tonight gets to do something that is part of normal behavior for a young woman:she is going to the Homecoming dance at her school, with her beau.
She sent me pictures, and they were heartbreaking. She is growing up to be such a beautiful young woman, and her young man looks very handsome and well dressed. It also emphasizes how old I am getting, and as I reflect back on all those activities that were denied to me because a bunch of childless old effers in Brooklyn deemed them as "bad". My sister and her husband, by their boneheaded beliefs and actions, have denied themselves a joyful event in their lives based on those idiotic rules.
Another plus. In talking with her, she said that someone from her hall had reached out to her, asking about her well-being, and (of course) inviting to take her to the meetings. I asked her if she was going to go, and she said "I don't really feel comfortable going right now. I'm kind of questioning everything after how my dad is acting. I'm not trying to be a rebel child...I just don't truly understand how someone could this plead not guilty and then do a Bible reading at the hall."
It was all I could do to restrain myself from telling her some things. All I could do was reply "I can see how that would be very disturbing and disquieting.."
More to follow, I am sure.